导言 Preface 1
一、怎样待人处世？ How to get along with people? 5
切记1：批评只会使人增加一层防御心 Criticism can put others on guard against you 5
切记2：人人愿意被他人重视 No one wants to be neglected 12
切记3：你必须站在别人的立场上看待事物 Look at things in other people s shoes 20
二、让人们喜欢你的绝招 Secrets to have yourself liked by others 32
绝招1：让对方处于中心地位 Put him or her in the center 32
绝招2：让你的微笑给对方留下深刻印象 Impress him or her with your smile 40
绝招3：请记住对方的姓名 Make sure you remember his or her name 44
绝招4：培养优雅和幽默 Cultivate elegance and humor 50
绝招5：多谈谈对方最感兴趣的事 Talk about what interests him or her 58
绝招6：美言一句胜三春 Say something nice about him or her 60
三、怎样使人赞同你的意见？ How to persuade people to agree with you? 67
1：不要固执已见 Don t be too stubborn about your own ideas 67
2：避免与他人结怨 Don t make enemy with anyone 72
3：勇于认错的人是最勇敢的 Be brave to admit your mistakes 79
4：找出两人间的距离才是最聪明的 It s wise to find out the difference 84
5：试图说服对方Try to persuade him or her 91
6：应该真心地去面对抱怨者 Face complaint heartily 95
7：与他人作一次精神上的沟通 Have spiritual communication with him or her 100
8：多采纳别人的意见 Be good at absorbing the opinions of others 104
9：应该同情他人 Be sympathetic with others 109
10：好的动机要引人注意 Tell your good intention to others 112
11：力量来自努力不懈 Strength comes from constant effort 117
12：试试激将法 Try plodding him or her into action 120
四、改变别人对你的看法的对策 Approaches to change others opinion on you 123
第一种对策：先礼后兵 Giving warning first before taking actions 123
第二种对策：旁敲侧击 Making oblique references 128
第三种对策：批评人之前先自我批评Making self-criticism before criticizing others 130
第四种对策：用问题替代命令 Asking questions instead of giving orders 133
第五种对策：打人莫打脸 Hitting no one on the face 135
第六种对策：批评的同时也应看到成绩 Criticizing a person withour neglecting his merits 138
第七种对策：看出对方隐藏的美德 Seeing other people s hidden virtues 142
第八种对策：以鼓励替代责备 Giving encouragement instead of reproaches 144
第九种对策：善于利用他人的缺点 Making use of the shortcomings of others 147
五、信札的奇迹 Miracles of letters 151
六、维持婚姻美满的七大规则 Seven rulus to maintain a satisfactory marriage 157
第一项规则：切莫喋喋不休 Never nagging 157
第二项规则：别尝试改造对方 Never try to change the other side 162
第三项规则：容忍 Be tolerant 165
第四项规则：偶尔泰承一番 Give some occasional praise 168
第五项规则：耍一点小花招 Make some clever tricks 171
第六项规则：礼多人不怪 Give some gifts when necessary 173
第七项规则：应了解一些“性” Know something about sex 176
七、怎样永远保持身心健康快乐？ Stay physically fit snd mentally happy? 180
第一要诀：知己知彼方能熟视无睹 Know yourself as well as others 180
第二要诀：思想能主宰命运 Ideas may dominant your fate 183
第三要诀：精神产生伟大力量 Spirit may produce great power 187
第四要诀：克服忧惧 Overcome worry and fear 195
第五要诀：不可轻易动怒 Don t get mad easily 198
第六要诀：对于困境潇洒地付之一笑 Smile at difficulties 204
第七要诀：培养恬静的心情 Foster a calm mood 209
第八要诀：以自信抗拒消极 Resist passiveness with self-confidence 213
第九要诀：让你成为一块磁石 Make yourself a magnet 218
第十要诀：思想的影响力 The influence of ideology 221
第十一要诀：永不动摇的信仰 Rock-firm faith 226
八、怎样创造光明的前途？ How to create a bright future? 233
踢开阻碍你前进的绊脚石 Kick away the stumbling block 233
追求金钱更能弥补人格缺陷 Pursue money to make up for your charcater defect 235
成功挖掘自己潜在的本领 Find your latent 238
不放弃克服困难的钥匙--自恃 Never give up the key to overcome difficulties--be proud of yourself 240
祈望 Never give up hope 243
业精于勤荒于嬉 Success comes with diligence 248
富裕是你天赋的权利 Getting rich is the right of your gift 250